Grace is the natural way to shorten the grieving process. Grace in context to grief and grieving means that instead of being thrown into the downward spiral of anger, depression, denial, bargaining, and acceptance, we respond to loss with GRACE: Gratitude… Resilience… Authenticity… Creativity… and Empathy. Instead of sinking into the river of tears, we build an archway across it.

Please take a moment to watch the video below. It will provide you with hope and context for a wonderful new way forward. God Bless, Team Grace

A Few Pointers…

• We recognize that we face many stages of emotional distress, but the truth is, Positivity is better than Denial… Gratitude is better than Anger… Meaning and purpose rise above Depression… and with Authenticity, Creativity, and Empathy, you have a chance at moving beyond just Accepting your loss to a life of hope and promise.

• Today is in fact the first day of the rest of your life. Cliche’ but true. Our approach is to move beyond mere understanding and accepting your grief to practical, useful, meaningful, and actionable things you can do to rise above the valley of doom and despair.

• They say it takes 28 days to create a new habit.

• For the next 35 days, you will receive specific and actionable help—a system designed to make Grace a HABIT. You read it… write down 1 word… and show up at the next session. Please invite everyone you know to join us.

• We have made this simple to understand and easy to do.

• In truth, this is the help you have been praying for. A way to move to a new life after grief… to love and be loved again.

• Since we are making this page immediately available to you, you can follow the simple path, or click a few of the scientific and more scholarly articles.

• We hope you read the book, listen to the audio for reinforcement and do the work we suggest. You will understand that grief is not forever… Grace is!

The Problem…

“Grief never ends, but it changes. It is a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness nor a lack of faith: it is the price of love.” ~ Anon

The classical definition of grief: Grief is the anguish experienced after significant loss, usually the death of a beloved person. Grief often includes physiological distress, separation anxiety, confusion, yearning, obsessive dwelling on the past, and apprehension about the future.
Most Grief Counselors will help you understand the 5-6-7 stages of grief, or help you express and share your feelings. You can understand Denial… understand Anger… understand Bargaining… understand Depression… and Acceptance, choosing to remain stranded in your swirling river of tears.
The result is commiseration and we spend a longer time dealing with negative feelings than necessary.

The Solution: Building a Bridge of Grace Over Your Troubled Waters…

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” ~ Denis Waitley

We all sink into the swirling river of tears—it is the natural result of trauma and shock.
Once you understand that Bargaining, Denial, Anger, and Depression can be offset by Gratitude, Resilience, Authenticity, Creativity, and Empathy—you spend less time in grief and more time living the life you love.
You learn to ACCEPT your loss and ACCEPT responsibility for moving into the life you will love.
This program is in honor of my beautiful wife, Janice Mary Haas, born November 4, 1942, and passed on January 9, 2022. I wrote Grieve With Grace™ to create a legacy of hope and inspiration for those who loved and lost and want to love and be loved again.

Gratitude…

DEFINITION: Gratitude is a warm feeling of thankfulness towards the world, or towards specific individuals. The person who feels gratitude is thankful for what they have, and does not constantly seek more. The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

When you lose someone close to you it is hard to imagine that warm feelings and words like gratitude, appreciation, or thankfulness would enter your thoughts.
You are hurting. In real physical and emotional pain. What is there to be grateful for?
The comforting, joyful, memorable experiences that you once enjoyed are still there in your mind, but now that person is gone. All your dreams of a future life with this person are gone.
The BOND is broken… the I plus You which became WE is now back to just YOU. This is like the phantom limb syndrome where, when you lose a limb, your brain still thinks its there.
Through training and learning, you will rewire your brain to realize the limb is gone. The same is true for grief. Gratitude is the healing tool that you will use to teach your brain that the missing “we” is a memory, one to be grateful for.
As you go through the week on Gratitude, you will understand that this is not just a good idea or positive philosophy, the science behind it is irrefutable.

“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions.” ~ Zig Ziglar

Resilience…

Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress—such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. As much as resilience involves “bouncing back” from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth. The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; mental toughness is key to healing quickly.

Gratitude is not at all aspirational, it is foundational to the next building block to Grace: Resilience. Without Gratitude, it is not possible to become resilient. They are conjoined.

“Aus der Kriegsschule des Lebens. Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker,” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Which can be translated as “Out of life’s school of war—what doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger.”
You have heard this quote your entire life. It is one of those truisms that is actually true.
Each time you face adversity, every time you are knocked down, you have a choice to give up or get up.
With the loss of a loved one, facing adversity means being aware that, against all your hopes, prayers, and wishes, your life has changed. And, it means accepting this tragic change for what it is, even though it isn’t what you want.
Where Gratitude opens your heart back up to the gifts of life, Resiliency focuses your mind on the possibility that you can and will make the remaining years of your life the best you can, even if you don’t know what that means yet—or how to even get the ball rolling.
Gratitude is about mental awareness. Resilience is about mental toughness. As in all things, the science of the resilient brain is undisputed. Click here for a short article that explains.

Authenticity…

Being authentic is living your life according to your own values and goals, rather than those of other people. Put simply, authenticity means you’re true to your own personality, values, and spirit, regardless of the pressure that you’re under to act otherwise. People who are Authentic are comfortable in their “own skin” and succeed in life. People who have no idea who they are or what they value rarely find the success they desire.

To Grieve With Grace means you will heal With Grace. By adding Resilience with Gratitude to become Authentically you.

Being the real Authentic YOU is the keystone to living a Graceful life on the other side of your torrent of tears.

If you truly intend to become the best version of yourself possible, now and in the future, you must be Authentic.

No question, there are many triggers that cause us to grieve: Death of a loved one, suicide or loss from drugs and alcohol, divorce, loss of job, and death of a pet. Unfortunately, the list is endless.

We all experience grief in different ways. But in the end, we must look in the mirror and deal with it in our own way.

Why Not Build The Bridge of Grace Over The Raging Tears of Grief?
If not yours, whose values are you living?
How Grateful and Resilient do you feel right now?
When will you show the world the real you?

Creativity…

Creativity is just connecting things. It is the ability to connect experiences you have and synthesize new things. Creativity encompasses the ability to discover new and original ideas, connections, and solutions to problems. It’s a part of our drive as humans—fostering resilience, sparking joy, and providing opportunities for self-actualization. Life requires daily acts of ingenuity and novel workarounds; in this sense, everyone possesses some amount of creativity.

Gratitude requires us to become “glass half full” not “glass half empty” believers. Resilience, tenacity, and grit must be our constant companions if we are to move from grief to Grace. Authenticity requires that we look at our lives exactly where we are right now, not through rose-colored glasses to the life we fantasize it to be. It reminds us to look into the mirror, check in with our souls, and decide who we will become as we traverse from grief to Grace. If who you are is not who you aspire to be, grief can give you that big “wake-up call” you need.

Now our discussion turns to the capital C in Grace — Creativity.

As it turns out, this is elemental to moving from grief to Grace. It is the building block that makes us look at our circumstances differently and choose which crayon in the box we will use to fill in the missing colors in our paint-by-numbers dreams.

Creativity is defined as the tendency to generate or recognize ideas, alternatives, or possibilities that may be useful in solving problems, communicating with others, and entertaining ourselves and others. Creativity is more about seeing and less about doing.

But to Grieve With Grace, we must do both: See and Do.

None of us can afford the price we must pay to live in grief forever. It is natural to know we will mourn and then grieve. It is not natural for us to think about creative ways to shortcut our grief or grieving process.

No question, we are always at the crossroads of Grief and Grace.

We either stay longer in denial, bargaining, anger, depression, and merely hope for acceptance…
Or we increase our State of Grace by becoming more Grateful, Resilient, Authentic, Creative, and Empathetic.
For many, it is too late to recognize we had a choice. Choose wisely.

A Moment on the big word VALUES — the word that gives you meaning.

• Each day, actually LIVE what you Value most…

• Each day, create new Visions of what your best life will look like…

• Each day, show up in a Role that will empower you to live your values and achieve your visions.

• This is the royal route to the new life you want and have been praying for.

Empathy…

Empathy is the ability to emotionally understand what other people feel, see things from their point of view, and imagine yourself in their place. Essentially, it is putting yourself in someone else’s position and feeling what they must be feeling. When you see another person suffering, you might be able to instantly envision yourself in the other person’s place.

To live to the fullest extent possible means you must become the Authentic you that emanates from deep within your soul. Life is too important, and much too short, to face it with the mask of deception. To become the best you possible, through good times and bad, is all that is asked. In fact, to live fully is a requirement. Be real. Permit the man or woman looking back in the mirror at you each morning to become the pure essence of who you are, not a poser or fraud. To live your best life possible, you cannot “phone in” your performance.

God wrote the script of our lives, and He knows how the story ends. He does not expect us to remain in grief forever. He wants us, indeed commands us, to live in Grace.

To love and be loved is why we exist. Losing the most important person in your life is all the proof you will ever need that it is true.

I know that now, in a deeply personal way. In the end, it is our last moments on earth that fully define our lives, and our humanity defines our right of passage to the hereafter. In death, we find liberation and absolution through Grace. I am not here to argue the point, only to prove that Grace conquers Grief.

And that there is little reason to be locked in years of denial, anger, and depression.

Why Not Build The Bridge of Grace Over The Raging Tears of Grief?

• Do you need to become more Empathetic?

• How strong is your Creative Passion right now?

• What life lesson has made you most Empathetic? Again, you may be interested in the scientific importance of Empathy to your healing.

Summary: Building your bridge across these troubled waters of loss starts with cherishing and honoring a love that will never end.

Paul Simon’s Gospel Song

“When you’re weary
Feeling small
When tears are in your eyes
I’ll dry them all
I’m on your side
Oh, when times get rough
And friends just can’t be found
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down” ~ Paul Simon & Art Garfunkle

Inspired by an old southern gospel song, Paul Simon wrote “Bridge Over Troubled Water” fairly quickly. Listening to the southern gospel group Swan Silvertones’ 1959 song “Oh Mary Don’t You Weep,” one particular line rang out to Simon,— I’ll be your bridge over deep water / If you trust in my name—which helped Simon finish “Bridge Over Troubled Water,” and its more gospel elements. “It was the music that was in my mind most of the time, and every time that I came home, I put that record on, and I listened to it,” Simon told Dick Cavett in a rare 1970 interview. “I think that must have subconsciously influenced me, and I started to go to gospel [chord] changes.”

What We Want You To Do Now…

Engage daily. Simply read your Moments of Grace emails…
Add/subtract words to your Values List…
Write out the phrase of the day in your own hand…
Attend the next 6 sessions, come prepared, and share your progress…
Remember that we are all in this together and you have our direct contact button (Upper left)…

If you have not yet ordered the Grieve With Grace System, Click image for full details.

Grace Seminar Resources…

Please take a moment to watch the video below. It will provide you with hope and context for a wonderful new way forward. God Bless, Team Grace

A Few Pointers…

• Today is in fact the first day of the rest of your life. Cliche’ but true. Our approach is to move beyond mere understanding and accepting your grief to practical, useful, meaningful, and actionable things you can do to rise above the valley of doom and despair.

• They say it takes 28 days to create a new habit.

• For the next 35 days, you will receive specific and actionable help—a system designed to make Grace a HABIT. You read it… write down 1 word… and show up at the next session. Please invite everyone you know to join us.

• We have made this simple to understand and easy to do.

• In truth, this is the help you have been praying for. A way to move to a new life after grief… to love and be loved again.

• Since we are making this page immediately available to you, you can follow the simple path, or click a few of the scientific and more scholarly articles.

• We hope you read the book, listen to the audio for reinforcement and do the work we suggest. You will understand that grief is not forever… Grace is!

The Problem…

“Grief never ends, but it changes. It is a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness nor a lack of faith: it is the price of love.” ~ Anon

The classical definition of grief: Grief is the anguish experienced after significant loss, usually the death of a beloved person. Grief often includes physiological distress, separation anxiety, confusion, yearning, obsessive dwelling on the past, and apprehension about the future.

Most Grief Counselors will help you understand the 5-6-7 stages of grief, or help you express and share your feelings. You can understand Denial… understand Anger… understand Bargaining… understand Depression… and Acceptance, choosing to remain stranded in your swirling river of tears.

The result is commiseration and we spend a longer time dealing with negative feelings than necessary.

The Solution: Building a Bridge of Grace Over Your Troubled Waters…

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” ~ Denis Waitley

We all sink into the swirling river of tears—it is the natural result of trauma and shock.

Once you understand that Bargaining, Denial, Anger, and Depression can be offset by Gratitude, Resilience, Authenticity, Creativity, and Empathy—you spend less time in grief and more time living the life you love.

You learn to ACCEPT your loss and ACCEPT responsibility for moving into the life you will love.

This program is in honor of my beautiful wife, Janice Mary Haas, born November 4, 1942, and passed on January 9, 2022. I wrote Grieve With Grace™ to create a legacy of hope and inspiration for those who loved and lost and want to love and be loved again.

Gratitude…

DEFINITION: Gratitude is a warm feeling of thankfulness towards the world, or towards specific individuals. The person who feels gratitude is thankful for what they have, and does not constantly seek more. The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

When you lose someone close to you it is hard to imagine that warm feelings and words like gratitude, appreciation, or thankfulness would enter your thoughts.

You are hurting. In real physical and emotional pain. What is there to be grateful for?

The comforting, joyful, memorable experiences that you once enjoyed are still there in your mind, but now that person is gone. All your dreams of a future life with this person are gone.

The BOND is broken… the I plus You which became WE is now back to just YOU. This is like the phantom limb syndrome where, when you lose a limb, your brain still thinks its there.

Through training and learning, you will rewire your brain to realize the limb is gone. The same is true for grief. Gratitude is the healing tool that you will use to teach your brain that the missing “we” is a memory, one to be grateful for.

As you go through the week on Gratitude, you will understand that this is not just a good idea or positive philosophy, the science behind it is irrefutable.

“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions.” ~ Zig Ziglar

Resilience…

Gratitude is not at all aspirational, it is foundational to the next building block to Grace: Resilience. Without Gratitude, it is not possible to become resilient. They are conjoined.

“Aus der Kriegsschule des Lebens. Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker,” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Which can be translated as “Out of life’s school of war—what doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger.”

You have heard this quote your entire life. It is one of those truisms that is actually true.

Each time you face adversity, every time you are knocked down, you have a choice to give up or get up.

With the loss of a loved one, facing adversity means being aware that, against all your hopes, prayers, and wishes, your life has changed. And, it means accepting this tragic change for what it is, even though it isn’t what you want.

Where Gratitude opens your heart back up to the gifts of life, Resiliency focuses your mind on the possibility that you can and will make the remaining years of your life the best you can, even if you don’t know what that means yet—or how to even get the ball rolling.

Gratitude is about mental awareness. Resilience is about mental toughness. As in all things, the science of the resilient brain is undisputed. Click here for a short article that explains.

Authenticity…

To Grieve With Grace means you will heal With Grace. By adding Resilience with Gratitude to become Authentically you.

Being the real Authentic YOU is the keystone to living a Graceful life on the other side of your torrent of tears.

If you truly intend to become the best version of yourself possible, now and in the future, you must be Authentic.

No question, there are many triggers that cause us to grieve: Death of a loved one, suicide or loss from drugs and alcohol, divorce, loss of job, and death of a pet. Unfortunately, the list is endless.

We all experience grief in different ways. But in the end, we must look in the mirror and deal with it in our own way.

Why Not Build The Bridge of Grace Over The Raging Tears of Grief?

If not yours, whose values are you living?

How Grateful and Resilient do you feel right now?

When will you show the world the real you?

Creativity…

Now our discussion turns to the capital C in Grace — Creativity.

As it turns out, this is elemental to moving from grief to Grace. It is the building block that makes us look at our circumstances differently and choose which crayon in the box we will use to fill in the missing colors in our paint-by-numbers dreams.

Creativity is defined as the tendency to generate or recognize ideas, alternatives, or possibilities that may be useful in solving problems, communicating with others, and entertaining ourselves and others. Creativity is more about seeing and less about doing.

But to Grieve With Grace, we must do both: See and Do.

None of us can afford the price we must pay to live in grief forever. It is natural to know we will mourn and then grieve. It is not natural for us to think about creative ways to shortcut our grief or grieving process.

No question, we are always at the crossroads of Grief and Grace.

We either stay longer in denial, bargaining, anger, depression, and merely hope for acceptance…

Or we increase our State of Grace by becoming more Grateful, Resilient, Authentic, Creative, and Empathetic.

For many, it is too late to recognize we had a choice. Choose wisely.

A Moment on the big word VALUES — the word that gives you meaning.

• Each day, actually LIVE what you Value most…

• Each day, create new Visions of what your best life will look like…

• Each day, show up in a Role that will empower you to live your values and achieve your visions.

• This is the royal route to the new life you want and have been praying for.

Empathy…

God wrote the script of our lives, and He knows how the story ends. He does not expect us to remain in grief forever. He wants us, indeed commands us, to live in Grace.

To love and be loved is why we exist. Losing the most important person in your life is all the proof you will ever need that it is true.

And that there is little reason to be locked in years of denial, anger, and depression.

Why Not Build The Bridge of Grace Over The Raging Tears of Grief?

• Do you need to become more Empathetic?

• How strong is your Creative Passion right now?

• What life lesson has made you most Empathetic? Again, you may be interested in the scientific importance of Empathy to your healing.

Summary: Building your bridge across these troubled waters of loss starts with cherishing and honoring a love that will never end.

“When you’re weary Feeling small When tears are in your eyes I’ll dry them all I’m on your side Oh, when times get rough And friends just can’t be found Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down” ~ Paul Simon & Art Garfunkle

What We Want You To Do Now…

Engage daily. Simply read your Moments of Grace emails…

Add/subtract words to your Values List…

Write out the phrase of the day in your own hand…

Attend the next 6 sessions, come prepared, and share your progress…

Remember that we are all in this together and you have our direct contact button (Upper left)…

“When you’re weary
Feeling small
When tears are in your eyes
I’ll dry them all
I’m on your side
Oh, when times get rough
And friends just can’t be found
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down” ~ Paul Simon & Art Garfunkle