“Suddenly she realized that what she was regretting was not the lost past but the lost future, not what had not been but what would never be.” ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald
A Thought On Loss…
This morning as I was running through my prayers and random thoughts I ruminated about everything I lost and gained when Jan died.
Then, I thought about all the other people I have met in their various stages of grief and began thinking about what they all had lost.
The reality is, I didn’t lose a single second from the past.
All my memories, pictures, experiences, and 30 years of love and devotion were all still there.
But my candle burns closer to the end of the wick…
And what I did lose was my future with the woman I loved more than my own life.
Future experiences…
Future memories…
Future love and all that implies.
It has been exactly 1 year and 7 months since Jan departed this world to find her resting place in the Kingdom of Heaven. She is doing well with life eternal, I am here dealing with life as a mortal.
So, for the next few blog posts, I want to crystalize my thinking on exactly what I, and millions of others in my same leaky boat, are experiencing and offer a little hope and a way forward in Grace.
My 5 Great Losses…
- The opportunity to courageously and confidently LOVE…
- The opportunity to be LOVED…
- MONEY ~ half my income vanished and over half our property was given away…
- My ROLE as husband to my soulmate…
- Supportive WISDOM and co-decision maker in life’s challenges.
I am sure others would have a different list depending on their loss. Regardless, we all need to recognize what we lost, and then determine how we are to move away from the loss to a life of abundance, freedom, and Grace.
Now that I have this short outline firmly etched into my schedule, you can expect answers (of sorts) to the big HOW questions these bullet points raise.
In truth, I am grappling with all 5 right now so this is a good time for me to do what I do best… create a strategy for moving beyond these 5 great losses toward a life that will feather my golden days with happiness, satisfaction, and meaning.
God Bless,
Eric Richard Haas
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