Resilience
To Live With Grace means you bounce back quickly when life hands you the inevitable setbacks. To recover from loss and grief — or to turn your Time, Talent, and Treasure into Legendary Wealth – you rely on the Hand of God to pick you back up and use your faith to power you forward.
Definition: Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress—such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. As much as resilience involves “bouncing back” from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth.
Grace Matters
Grace Matters Because…
In the end, we either take our grief to the grave or lift up our spirit—here and now—in Grace.
Years ago I lost a dear friend to the Viet Nam conflict, war, or whatever the politically correct would call it.
Kenny was the best of the best and graduated at the top of his class at the Air Force Academy, flew jets, and in his 25 short years, lived his life on purpose and with Grace.
For the past 50 years, I have thought about him and why I lived and he died.
It just didn’t seem right somehow.
He was stronger, faster, smarter, and a tremendously gifted leader.
The Letter We Alone Must Write
You are Not Alone…
When we have lost a loved one, we start to feel the clutching sorrow of loneliness and despair. We start to believe we have been left alone, and we will never love or be loved again.
Alone in the crowd is a terrible, empty feeling.
One of the hardest assignments that a grief or Grace counselor hands out is writing a letter to your loved one.
For a long time, only the tears flow, stopping you from even organizing your thoughts.
Over time, you start to see a flicker of light, light shining on what might be a pathway out of your terrible pain, leading to your new life.
Monday I wrote from my heart.
Today, it feels as if I am finally resolved to my loss, and accepting of my future without the one woman I loved more than life itself.
Was… Is… Will Be…
The 3 Giant Questions of Moving from Grieving to Living in Grace…
We are now done with the principal writing of Grieve With Grace™.
Now, the hard part of writing—accepting critical thinking, review, and most importantly, editing.
Yes, accepting the advice of others is key to creating a product that will perform as intended, in this case, help people move from grief to Grace.
This week as we were discussing direction and writing style, the idea of the word “Acceptance” came into focus.
Where grief ends in Acceptance—accepting the loss of someone close to you—a new life begins with Accepting responsibility for moving forward with your life.
No question, Acceptance is the endpoint of grief and the Starting Point for Grace.
Grief-Stricken vs. Grace-Stricken
You Are Just…
Grief-stricken and everything will be ok…
Over time you will feel better and not hurt so much…
You just need to get over it and snapback…
If you have experienced a great loss you have heard these words. Maybe not exactly the same words but the same meaning and intent.
People, especially those close to you, have no idea what to say to help, so they express their feelings in odd ways. Usually with what they think you want to hear.
Happy Easter ~ Life After Death
We all have two choices... We either believe there is life after death... Or just death after life. Being a lifelong Christian our belief is sustained by hope and Grace. My beloved Jan saw Easter as something more than a rebirth of spring after winter, but proof of...
Remorse or Grace on the Road to Legacy
Fact: You will leave a legacy... It will either be a positive and lasting impact on your family, friends, or the world at large... Or, it will be negative, maybe worse... you will leave nothing behind that proves the value of the one life you had to live. I am not...
Bridging The River of Grief
Throughout my new book, you see we always have a choice between a positive or negative emotion.
We choose to be gloomy or grateful.
We choose to be pessimistic or proactive.
We choose, even when we don’t realize it, Regrets and Remorse vs. Grace.
What I have found is that most people in grief counseling accept…
Your Choice: Grief or Grace
I wrote this book to help you come to terms with the grief that stems from great loss. I wrote this article to share the big WHY behind my thinking.
My hope is that you will better understand how your choices and actions will either shorten or lengthen your time in grief vs. living your new life.
As a writer, there is one thing I believe in more than psychology, philosophy, or theology.
It’s the power of WORDS.
Words have meaning and they have the power to kill our spirits or heal our broken hearts.
Having gone through the terrible experience of losing the woman I loved more than anything or anybody, I expected to grieve.
A Word About Our Cover…
This book, especially the cover, saved my life.
You will see the traditional memorial candle with flame turning into the smoke that represents the spirit manifesting itself as a woman rising from death in the real world, to live in the spirit world.
I wrote this book to save me years in the prison of grief… and to help the world see there is a clear alternative: Grace.
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The True Power of Resilience
Life, even for the strongest of us is hard. Sometimes brutal.
We have success. We have setbacks.
We must push through to whatever goalposts we created for our lives.
“When we tackle obstacles, we find hidden reserves of courage and resilience we did not know we had. And it is only when we are faced with failure do we realize that these resources were always there within us. We only need to find them and move on with our lives.” ~ A. P. J. Abdul Kalam
We will be knocked down. Not if, but when.
And usually when we expect it least.
Resilience: The Power to Move Forward
Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress—such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.
First, let me be clear. Resilient is not something you do, it is something you are, or in my case, become much more aware of — who I needed to become to stop my steady slide into oblivion and perhaps, a very short life expectancy.
Science has proven that “broken heart syndrome” is very real.
You can die of a broken heart if you permit grief to overtake Grace,
A Word About Our Cover…
This book, especially the cover, saved my life.
You will see the traditional memorial candle with flame turning into the smoke that represents the spirit manifesting itself as a woman rising from death in the real world, to live in the spirit world.
I wrote this book to save me years in the prison of grief… and to help the world see there is a clear alternative: Grace.